A blistering attack on bubble-wrapped kids, this blogger’s rant asks a simple question.
A mommy blogger with a modest following has set the internet afire with a rant on the state of parenting today. Stephanie Metz, US mom of two, kicked things off by declaring that her kids are “not the centre of my world,” and continued with a diatribe about over-protective parents, according to
.Stop hovering, dammit!
At the heart of her rant is her scathing dismissal of helicopter parents. When her son second-guessed himself about playing with a yellow plastic toy gun, it struck her: Her kids are being made insecure- almost paralysed- with the fear that what she considers normal play could get them into trouble.
She’s not academic citing studies and behavioural dynamics, but merely hitting on the nanny-state attitudes creeping into parenting. A child who argues with another child and calls her names is not necessarily a pathological bully deserving of incarceration; that behaviour is just normal for kids, as is wrestling with each other and having a few scrapes and bad experiences.
So by making them the centre of her world, she believes that she’d be doing her kids a disservice
, placing them in a situation where they can no longer learn to overcome difficulties. She mentions the phenomenon of parents accompanying their adult kids to job interviews.The result?
Her blog has attracted some resounding agreement, although much of it comes from people ranting about gun control and government interference. Some have criticised her for reneging on her responsibilities as a mother and suggest that society as a whole has changed and kids actually need more attention.
She’s just one mom speaking her mind about parenting- not for everyone else’s kids- just her own. In her opinion, she’s doing a great job as a mom, and she doesn’t need other people telling her what to do. She’s also a better mom for recognising that she’s a woman, a wife and an individual as well as a mom, and that there’s more to her than simply holding her kid’s hands through life.Helicopter parenting
is an extreme form of parenting where the parents hover over every move of the child, ostensibly in the name of nurture, but the trend is making parents question the long-term effects of this parenting style
: Where will kids be as adults should they not have had room to learn from trial and error, make mistakes and experience disappointments?
Ultimately, Metz is asking that in her provocative blog entry: If being a parent is the centre of my world, am I harming my kids?
Take a read of her viral post
and see if you agree.Should parents give kids more room to mess up?