My big boy
He’s bigger than average, but he’s still my little baby, says this proud daddy.
I try to take walks with my 2-year-old son, Kweku, every evening. We live in a wonderful complex where, after school and on weekends, the road is often filled with children, laughing, playing and generally having fun. We stroll while he tells me about his day at pre-school in a language only he understands, but I am able to decipher the important bits.
One day I stopped briefly to chat to my neighbour, who raised the concern that the couple of times he asked my son his name, all he received in return was a blank stare. I had to explain that Kweku was only 2 and was still learning his name and how to respond to the question.
It may seem a strange conversation to have but Kweku is the size of a 4-year-old.
He was born at 4.78kgs. During delivery, the doctors and nurses were calling out weights and I wouldn’t be surprised if they had a side bet running. That was my first birthing experience but I don’t think it is normal for a nurse to run down from delivery room to check the child’s weight then run out breathlessly to tell the others.
Half Kweku’s newborn clothing didn’t fit and the rest lasted a week, setting the precedent for his first two years beyond. Buying a car seat
was science because he was already too big for a lot of what they were trying to sell me for his age.
His wardrobe continues to house clothes and shoes that have been worn a couple of times because he grows so quickly. Playing with other children has always been challenging because the older ones can’t understand why he still does baby talk and those his age just don’t see him as their age mate.
He could open doors at 1 and can climb just about anything but is still learning that there is a consequence to that. He is less fragile, boisterous and full of energy. He is also hard to pick up during tantrums
and great for backache.
Yet, despite his size, he’s still a baby
. He wants to be carried and cuddled; his two new favourite words are ‘up’ and ‘sleep’. It is easy to forget his age until he reminds you in the cutest ways.Do bigger children face unrealistic expectations?