To leave him or not?
Are you one of South Africa’s women who would stay with your ex for the kids?
After 18 years of an unhappy marriage, Gail decided to move on and became a single parent.

'Eventually it feels as if you are going to lose your mind,' she says. 'The tension and unpleasantness just becomes too much for you and your children to handle.'

Like so many others, Gail would probably have called it quits on the marriage long before if there hadn't been children involved.

But even when they're divorced, some women don't sail away on their own course. According to the recent Women24 Female Nation Survey, 20%of South Africa’s women would stay with their husband even after the divorce.

Why, you may wonder? Well, for the kids of course.

Anne Cawood, a parenting expert, gives her opinion on the matter.

'The fact that they are divorced means that they have not been able to sort out their problems. To then feel that it would be best to stay together – even though they are divorced – will only exacerbate the impact on their children.'

Not all moms can stick it out though. Sometimes you have to think about how your decisions will affect you as well as your children. More than just having Mom and Dad in one, your children need a stable and mentally friendly environment to live and grow in.

Surely a safe and happy household is better than a “complete” one?

Do you think it’s worth staying with your ex for the sake of the kids?’s 2009 Female Nation Survey results have been weighted  to represent 600 000 urban South African women who: have Matric as a minimum qualification, are over 21 and are  earning R4500 or more a month.

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