Parents respond to out-of-control tantrums
What do you do when your child's tantrums are out of control?
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See how parents responded to our article about the toddler who through a monumental temper tantrum in the middle of a shop.

Read more: Out-of-control tantrum: what would you do?

Gareth Randall- In response to your post about temper tantrums I have the following to add.

Firstly, as a parent myself and having experienced a minor temper tantrum in public it is hugely embarrassing. With everyone watching and whispering to each other, one can only imagine the things that they must be saying.

In the video you posted it did show the mother completely ignoring the preschooler. Which, in most cases (at least in my case), seems to do the trick. However, this little one was not having any of that.

The old school way I was brought up in, which I also implement myself as a parent is now, was that for every action there is an equal reaction. For example, should my child do well at something, he is rewarded with affection and depending on the situation maybe even with a small toy or something sweet.

On the other hand, should unacceptable behaviour or action take place a gentle reminder of who is parent and who is child is enforced. This could be as little and basic as a time out or more extreme cases, such as the video. A firm whack on the buttocks seems to do the trick.

Every parent and every person has a different way of handling such a situation. Some even take things too far and become abusive to the child. A poll would perhaps be a good idea of where people stand on this type of situation.

Either way, I am sure that 100% of the people who viewed this video would agree that that behaviour is way out of control. 

Cheryl- After watching the video I think that the adults involved handled it the best way possible. They ignored her and got out of the store as fast as possible. I do not believe that hitting her would have helped in any way.

They can always discipline her later by withholding the shoes or whatever (I don’t believe in smacking). 

Nicolene-

I have been there. Having a normal day, shopping, minding my own business-that was 6 years ago. I now have a 6 year old son, who has Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, non-verbal and low-functioning. He has sensory integration issues-which means an outing can become a nightmare in a blink of an eye.

My heart goes out to parents facing challenging behaviour where ever they may be. It is difficult dealing with a special needs child. Stop judging before you know what is really going on.

Yes, I know neuro-typical children also throw tantrums, but I also know there are reasons: the child has had a long day and can be tired, hungry, overwhelmed, tired of being cooped up, they behave in a certain way for a reason.

When my son is having a meltdown, (which differs from a tantrum but looks like it from "outside"), he is over tired, over stimulated, too many new people, too hot or the light is affecting him. We don't know what is going on inside his head.

The best advice will be to remove him quickly from the situation-not always possible, but try to get him cool, calm, safe. Give him time to reset. Please don't judge parenting skills, we are trying to do our best under very difficult circumstances.

My advice to people witnessing a tantrum will be to stand aside, let the mum handle her child but if you can, let her pay as quickly as possible, because she is probably embarrassed - don't give her looks or talk to the child, but let her know it happens and it is okay-everyone who has had small children know they sometimes behave like that and we still love and care for them afterwards. 

Cherise Diedericks- WOW!!! Shocking! It's sad to see this kid acting out this way- and she looks like an older child.

My daughter often throws her tantrums in many stores: the one day we were busy shopping and she ran towards the shoppers and in the middle of them threw herself flat on the floor and started screaming and rolling. I have never felt so embarrassed.

I am not the type to hit my kid in front of anyone. I went to her and tried to pick her up and calm her down- however that didn't help and some people were getting upset. I then held her up to stand gave her a shot on her thighs and said "enough! stop it!." Since then she's much better about tantrums. 

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