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Danger in the men's room

 
My son uses the ladies room, and here's why I won't compromise on that...
By Masanda Peter
Article originally in Parent24
My son is not allowed to go into the men’s room in public places like malls, church and so on.

After reading a story on the IOL website about young boys, aged seven and four who were sexually assaulted in the bathrooms at a fast food restaurant I realised that I have been making the right choice. This monster of a man raped the elder boy and sexually assaulted his younger brother.

My son is 6 years old and he comes with me to the ladies’ bathroom when he needs to make a pee – of course I cannot enter the gents and feel he is young to make any ladies uncomfortable. Yes, there has been a few stares. One lady asked me the other day why am I not sending my son to the men’s room – is she crazy? My answer was a clear NO and I entered the ladies' with no guilt at all.

I am protecting my son here. It is a trust issue and living in the world that we live in one needs to take all the necessary precautions. I am not taking chances, not with my child. I always believe that you know how and what works for you best, so go for it. As a parent you know what makes you comfortable and you better follow your heart.

To find that there are people who want to prey on your children while you are having a family outing sickens me to the core. Some people expose themselves to children to satisfy their sickening sexual urges, but why target such young, defenceless and innocent souls?

A legal loophole?

This leaves children with deep emotional scars that they get to live with for the rest of their lives. In this case, a loophole in the British legal system allowed the 23-year-old attacker out and about giving him an opportunity to mess up more young children's lives. One wonders how many other children may have fallen prey to him.

I am quite sure that as a parent finding yourself in such a situation you would feel guilty and ask yourself why you sent the child to the bathroom alone. Standing outside the men’s room does not offer me enough security to let my son go inside alone.

There are people who are orchestrating their moves on where they will be targeting their next victim. We can only do the best we know how can and be vigilant to the best of our ability.

Read more by Masanda Peter

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