Breaking up is hard to do
How can you help your kids when their first love falls apart?
There is no easy way to break up; that’s the first thing boys need to know. Nothing you say or do can sugar-coat it, or prevent the inevitable pain it will cause. I learnt that little lesson the hard way, after fumbling at it with lies, and half-truths and all kinds of bullshit. In the end I realised the “best” way, and also the right way was just to tell them it was over, for whatever reason.
The responsibility of love
My little girl got dumped this week and since it was her first “puppy” love, her heart was broken and the tears flowed freely. I wasn’t too upset about the break-up; we all know your first puppy love very seldom lasts. But what did pee me off a tad was the way he did it, he sent one of his mates to do it. Not cool, at all.
I think we need to teach our little men in training that they need to man up and do things the right way. And it’s both parent’s job to make sure that our boys and girls treat the hearts of others with dignity and respect, don’t you think?
I was never given “the talk” by either of my parents, and maybe if I had, I would not have had to stumble and trample on a few hearts in the beginning. I think girls also need to be taught how to be responsible with boys’ hearts. Since Hannah and I have a really good bond, we skinder about all kinds of things, including the “love-lives” of the other 12-year-olds at school, and from what I can gather there are a few real heartbreakers-in-training already.
Training for one of life’s biggest challenges
Well that’s life I suppose. I know she’ll survive this experience and it will soon be forgotten and the next Romeo will preen his feathers to entice her… And the dance will continue until, well, hopefully she meets Mr Right. Romance and relationships are fraught with major challenges and dramas. It’s no secret that for many of us it will be the most challenging aspect of our time on the planet. And no one, beggar, thief or king, can escape the painful machinations of cupids arrow.
That’s why the least we can do as parents is teach our little ladies and gentlemen in training the rules of engagement and, more importantly, disengagement of love’s unforgiving dance.
Do you ever discuss relationship etiquette with your child?