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Bad parenting to blame for child killings

Are parents to blame for their adult kids actions?
Marlon Abrahams
By Marlon Abrahams

Pic: Jade Photography

“The gunman in the Connecticut shooting blasted his way into the elementary school and then sprayed the children with bullets, first from a distance and then at close range, hitting some of them as many as 11 times, as he fired a semiautomatic rifle loaded with ammunition designed for maximum damage, officials said.”

This was the lead paragraph in the New York Times on the16th December 2012. It’s 6am and I’ve just turned on the news and am, like most of the world, in shock and disbelief at the killing of 20 school children in the US. It makes no sense; there can be no reasonable explanation as to why someone would do such a thing. Whatever the reasons, one thing that is probably certain is that the gunman could not possibly be sane.

As details begin to emerge about the killer, a report in the Telegraph claims that the gunman was taught to shoot by his mother, whom he apparently shot to death minutes before going on his murderous rampage.

US president, Obama is seen fighting back tears while hinting at looking at gun reforms in the States. The sad reality is that guns don’t kill people, people with guns kill people.

Parents have the biggest responsibility bar none in the execution of our duties in raising our kids. The way our kids end up has a direct bearing on the quality of the communities we live in and indeed the impact those communities have on the world as a whole.

I have maintained that parenting is the most important “job” we have and will always be the lasting legacy we all get to leave behind. My heart goes out to the parents of the kids killed in this horrific tragedy. I hope that in time they will find some sort of peace to quell the countless questions occupying their minds right now.

As for the perpetrator of this heinous deed, from the photograph released of him, he seems to be a troubled individual. Nothing, no case of insanity, can excuse his actions. We are an evolved species and we know instinctively that it is wrong to kill our own, especially our innocent, defenceless children. Yet these atrocities continue.

My plea, in the face of this tragedy, is that we all look within ourselves and view our parenting role with the gravity and importance it warrants. You and I are shaping the communities and the world we live in by the way we raise our children. The values, morals, beliefs and goals we inspire in them will manifest in society and live on long after we’ve gone.

If you’ve ever thought it was okay to shirk your parental responsibilities let this tragedy drive home the vital importance of taking the time and effort to spend quality time to love and nurture our kids with wisdom, kindness and most of all, humanity. Good, responsible parenting would most certainly have avoided this horrific blight on our record as humans.

Do you think parents
should be blamed for their adult kids actions?

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