"I found condoms in my son’s room"
How do you react when your 8-year-old has condoms?
Funi was cleaning her son’s room and sorting his clothes. To her surprise she found a stash of condoms in her son’s sweater that he had wanted to school that particular morning, but she refused. What concerned her was that her son was taking the condoms to school. She just doesn’t understand what her 8-year-old son wanted to do with condoms at school.
She is a single mother of two boys. The previous weekend she found a condom filled with water in the backyard but ignored it. Funi is well aware that sex education is being taught at school but she feels that it is too early for him to be having condoms in his room. She admits that had he been home when she found the condoms all hell would have broken loose but now that she is calm she will address the matter calmly.
The advice from other mothers is that she shouldn’t be harsh when dealing with the matter but sit him down and calmly talk to him and find out where he got them. Other mothers mentioned that she should be happy and thankful that if he is sexually active at least he is using condoms to protect himself from both diseases or getting the girl pregnant.
I don’t think so, for an 8-year-old boy to be experimenting with sex is way too young but then how do you control this?
I’m a mother of a 7-year-old and would be just as shocked and disappointed if I were to find condoms in his bag. Kids these days start experimenting with sex at an early age but I guess when it happens or has potential to happen with our kids that is when we panic. It is always “other kids” and one day we realise that it is in fact our kids we do not take kindly to it.
This also reminds me of a campaign by Love Life where they say “Love them enough to talk about sex” – I guess this is what Funi needs to do and maybe me as well. According to a Love Life counsellor she advised parents to monitor their kids and when they see that there is a sexual influence, they should introduce age appropriate sex topics.
Times have changed and we need to start these conversations with our kids. Maybe her son feels pressured at school or it is just plain curiosity but she is still to find out about that when they sit down. Yes, he should be focussing on his books and not think about sex but we need to deal with the reality of life. I know now that being a parent is not child’s play, there’s just so much to deal with.
How would you deal with the situation of finding condoms in your 8-year-old's room?
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