A little person develops a big personality
Mysmartkid’s educational psychologist, Anel Annandale tells how a little one’s personality develops through the years.
at your tiny bundle, it might be hard to believe now, but this first year is
going to play a vital role in the development of their sense of identity and
belonging. From being totally dependent on you – not just physically, but
emotionally too – you’ll soon start to see their own personality begin to take
From the moment they’re born, babies
are completely dependent on the people around them. And not just to feed,
soothe, burp and change them, but also to instil and develop feelings of trust
and security. These are achieved through establishing a daily routine, with
some degree of flexibility, and it’s essential for babies to have their needs
met in a caring and affectionate way.
Because infants have an innate
ability to respond to human faces and voices, your baby will be able to pick up
on the tone of your voice from a very early age. In fact, research shows that
the connections between your baby’s brain cells develop more rapidly, and are
reinforced more effectively, when you use a positive emotional tone when
interacting with them.
It’s also interesting to know that,
at first, your little darling won’t really be able to distinguish between
themselves and you. It’s only as they grow that they start to realise that
you’re actually two separate individuals. Just be aware though that this
realisation typically leads to separation anxiety. It will take a while before
your baby understands ‘object permanence’ and they will worry that you’ve
disappeared if they lose sight of you! They may also develop stranger anxiety
and become upset when they see people they don’t recognise.
During this first year, your little
one will slowly start to realise that they have an influence on their
environment. They’ll most likely discover this by accident at first. Such as
when they inadvertently kick the mobile above their cot and watch in sheer
astonishment as it moves! But, with time, their behaviour will become
increasingly more ‘goal directed’ and they’ll really enjoy seeing the effect
they have on the objects and people around them. And, just so you know, this is
also an imperative early step in ensuring your baby develops good self-esteem.
Your baby’s relationship with you will play a major
role in developing their personality. And it’ll set the stage for how they
relate to others later in life. It’s truly amazing to see your tiny tot’s
unique personality start to emerge, influenced by their own inborn temperament
and the nature of your family and culture.
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