‘Daddy paid for my career’
Are you doing your kids a favour if you bankroll their job ambitions?
Jaden Smith is a gifted child star. But when his parents Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are the co-producers of his latest hit movie (the remake of the Karate Kid) are they sponsoring his career? And as for his 9-year-old sister Willow, would she have a much-viewed video if her parents were us?
This sparked quite a debate between me and my husband. His opinion is that if he were in the position to set his child up in his chosen career, he’d do it in a flash. While I’m not so sure if that is such a good idea.
Follow daddy’s footsteps
But being helped along in your career doesn’t belong solely to the rich and famous. The father who told his daughter to pick a study direction in either agriculture or his own profession, since he owns a farm and is a partner in a professional firm, comes to mind. Or the father who set up a whole new record studio because his son wanted to be a sound engineer.
I’m sure that these dads made an informed choice before committing to their child’s career. Ultimately it depends on what your child does with his opportunities that determines whether you made the right decision or not.
I’ve seen children who were given all the luxury and opportunity while Daddy was paying. Until the moment that he passed away, leaving them to suddenly learn how to cope for themselves - unfortunately with disastrous effects.
I believe that equipping your child with knowledge and the will to succeed is far more important than paving the way. And hard work has never stood me wrong. I admit this might just be a case of slight resentment and jealousy on my part for not having it easier in life.
So, when do we give in and boost your children’s future career? Is it part of our parental duty to ensure that your child is successful, whatever that may take? Or, do you believe your child will benefit more from the character building experience of fighting his own way to the top?
Would you set your child up in a career?
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