Do children owe their parents?
Do we parent our children with an attitude of 'I'll raise you now, you pay me later?'
As parents we hope for the best for our kids. Some of us show this through providing them with the best education, living conditions and sometimes material things.

Parents try and provide what they never had growing up, trying to ensure that they children are well provided for. I am sure each and every parent has great aspirations and dreams for their child.

I have noticed that when the children start working some parents expect some form of pay me back. This is often in the form of money.

As you are providing for the child while growing up, there might be things you cannot afford and personal sacrifices you make because you have to pay the school fees, but the clothes and other things. Is it necessary, though, to expect some form of payback when they start working?

Parents who ask for too much

Some parents want their children to give them money on a monthly basis and some make ridiculous financial demands. In some cases children grew up in dire poverty and parents sacrificed quite a lot for them to be where they are. I salute those parents who made sacrifices in those difficult conditions and I think that is what a parent should do if they have means to do so.

Does that mean when children start working they need to be burdened by the responsibility of taking care of the family because so much was sacrificed for them?

Yes, the child should see that there is a need to contribute, but perhaps as parents we should let it come from their heart and own will. But some children are in huge debt because mom and dad back at home have high financial demands and expectations.

As parents we should play our parenting role and hopefully raise them into responsible adults. A responsible adult will see and know when they need to help out but not to the point of being forced.

At times parents recite what they have done for the children while they were growing up. The best schools they took them to, the dreams they put aside in order for the kids to have the best. When you do all of this, do you really expect them to pay you back? Were you not playing your part as parent?

Let us play our role and let them play theirs when they are older.

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