Your daughter's other 'daddy'
Why is a grown man sniffing around your teen? Masanda Peter calls it as she sees it.
Having been a student myself I have seen a sad case of grown men
loitering around varsity premises. No, they are not there to drop off their daughters or sons for school.
They are there to pick up my and your daughter because they want to date them or even worse are dating them already. This is nothing new and I am sure it is soon going be acceptable in society if nothing is done to put a stop to it. It's not uncommon to see a young girl having a steady relationship with a married man old enough to be her father.
I often wonder whether our daughters are strong enough to withstand the temptations brought by these men. When you ask them why they are in such relationships it is mostly the case of this man spoiling her, giving her money, buying her clothes and in some cases renting her a flat. I’m sure it is tempting to being enticed by such a life but in exchange for what?
In the case of money if you are used to getting around R500 a month pocket money from your parents, surely R3000 a month will be enticing. Now that is where the problem lies, how do our daughters deal with this temptation?
A taste of the good life
I have a friend who often takes her daughter for holidays. When I asked her why she is always with her daughter she mentioned that she does not want her to fall prey of being enticed by men especially older ones. She reckoned that the more she exposed her to the ‘good life’, the less chances of her being a victim to these men.
At the same time we also need to understand that not all parents can afford to do what she is doing due to financial limitations. This is where I think good parenting
skills get tested. The values you have imparted to your children while growing up will be put to the test. I am not sure if there is much we can do as parents, is there?
Men with car seats, rings on their fingers, most probably a family man (obviously not a committed one) are cavorting with young girls and that young girl could well be your daughter. Some even fail at school because the sugar daddy is making demands for this young girl to be with him all the time.
I guess this is the time where we need to equip our daughters and warn them about this trend. This is when as a parent you need to have a heart to heart conversation, before your young precious girl goes away from home to pursue her studies.
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