Is Christian parenting still relevant?
Sipho Yanano discusses the relevance of religious parenting.
Many Christian parents find themselves having to tell their children the following rules:
“Sex out of marriage is wrong, even if you use a condom. You must wait until you get married.”“You should not swear”“Pray before meals and when you to school”“No, you can’t watch that movie, it’s too violent and features a lot of spiritualism.”
Some parents might wonder if some of these biblical principles
still apply in raising children in the fast paced modern world. Is an ancient book's principle still applicable to children who are growing at a time when technological advancement has given them so many opportunity and challenges?Is the Bible’s moral code too strict and inconvenient for our children?
Let’s take issue of sexual morality. Bible principles clearly demonstrate that licit sexual relations
should be between two married people of different sex. Modern mores are quite parallel to Biblical thinking. These days children are bombarded with entertainment where teens and adults hop into bed at the drop of a hat. As long as two people are consenting adults no one should judge them; that’s the message children get.
Add to this entertainment the liberal lifestyles
of the rich and famous which are flaunted in the media, influencing the minds of the young.
Many Christian parents my feel like dinosaurs when they try to convince their children about such values as moral chastity
, when the same values are frowned upon by a huge section of the society.
Another challenge that Christian parents may have is the discussion of safe sex with their teenagers. After having taught your child that sex outside marriage is wrong it may seem like a double standard to then say to a teen, “ If you feel like having sex then please use a condom.” To a Christian parent this may seem like thumbs up to premarital sex
Whether Biblical principles are still relevant today is for each parent to decide. But we can have a look at what happens when teens are not given strict guidelines on sexual morality:Times Live reports
that “The UN Population Fund…reported that the number of mothers under 15 in sub-Saharan Africa is expected to be the same as in South Asia by 2030. At least 4% of South Asian women aged between 20 and 24 reported giving birth before they were 15.
The report said that in poor countries more than 7million girls under 18 give birth each year. Two million of them are 14 or younger…”My Helderberg reports
“Speaking in Parliament, Minister Aaron Motsoaledi said 89,000 abortions took place at public hospitals alone… Motsoaledi said teenage girls accounted for eight percent of pregnancies. He further revealed that girls under 18 accounted for 36 percent of maternal deaths in the country.”
These statistics show that as parents we really have to talk to our children about acceptable sexual mores, not what they see on television.Read more by Sipho YananoDo you still believe in religious parenting and its values?Disclaimer: The views of columnists published on Parent24 are their own and therefore do not necessarily represent the views of Parent24.