Parents are to blame?
Are out-of-control youth like Lindsay Lohan right to blame their parents?
Lindsay Lohan has been blasted on the covers of tabloids over the past few years and for all the wrong reasons. From partying with no knickers, driving under the influence, drug use, jail spurts and her tumultuous relationship with Samantha Ronson, it seemed that Lindsay, 24, had gone totally loco and her career is as doomed as her next fix.
In a bid to stay out of jail and clean up her act she has booked herself into a live-in rehab for the fifth time. Now required to wear an ankle alcohol monitor after failing court ordered drug tests, Lindsay is finally opening up to counsellors at the centre and is saying that her father is to blame for her drug and alcohol addictions.
According to an article on tmz.com
Lindsay’s convinced that her Dad created the mess that she’s in.
But should parents be blamed when their adult children go off the rails?
Most parents’ ultimate goal is to teach their kids right from wrong so that they can grow up to be responsible adults and make decisions for themselves, however when a parent behaves poorly towards a child, the child will either mirror that behaviour or respond to that behaviour with some or other form of unacceptable behaviour.
According to Mudrashram.com
, when growing up in a dysfunctional family you tend to experience trauma and pain from your parents' actions, words, and attitudes. Because of this, you miss important parts of necessary parenting that prepare you for adulthood and you miss parts of your childhood when you were forced into unnatural roles within your family.
For some it leads to drug and alcohol abuse as they attempt to flee the pain of their childhood.
An out-of-control parent cannot effectively teach a child how to control his or her behaviour. However, even kids of model parents will act out and push the boundaries that parents set as this is part of growing up.
The bottom line is that, at some point, everyone must be accountable and take responsibility for their actions.
At what age is it too late to keep blaming the folks?