The Matric Welcome Dance
Dress, date, dire warnings. Ntombikayise has it sorted.
My eldest daughter is in matric this year. It has not been the momentous occasion for us that it has been for her. I am hoping our moment of glory is coming, soon.
For us the academic year kicks off with the annual Matric Welcome Dance. Since the dance is held in February it cannot really be called a “farewell dance” can it? This my daughter pointed out to me with a slight note of condescension in her voice.
There are the dress, shoes, hair, nails, accessories and make-up to worry about. And decisions about these tend to change with each week. It starts with decisions; it ends with the mommy taxi carting a daughter to and from these various appointments and of course emptying my purse at each designated point. So, at the end of it all, I’m not only tired but poorer as well.
Just as the outfit is sorted, and you think it’s over... its not. Then there’s question of her date for that special night. My daughter is not very girly, so we have not had many of these boy issues. I worried a bit about how we would deal with this one. But it was easily done, thank goodness. Now we only have to worry about what the poor boy is going to wear!
Then finally, but by no means the least important (according to my daughter), is the after party. Not only is this party not sanctioned by the school (the school has actually cautioned parents about these parties) but we are also required to pay extra towards it (for her and the date) and get this, there’s an outfit required for this as well!
Now we don’t know who will be at this party, will there be alcohol or drugs? It just seems easier, cheaper and less painful for us parents, to say no to this party, don’t you agree?
The biggest challenge for me was offering guidance and advice without appearing to be taking over the decisions and forcing my choices on her. At the same time if you hang back too much, then important decisions will not be made in time, and mom you’ll still be blamed for not doing enough.
Good luck to all those parents who will be going through this later in the year.
P.S. We are still deciding on the after party.
Have you been through the Matric Dance saga? What advice do you have?