Casual sex amongst youths is a sad reality in South Africa. But we can’t blame schools alone.
As 21st century parents we are caught up in the rat race of trying to earn a living which often means we spend less time at home with our children and more at work chasing deadlines, commissions, promotions, etc.
Even when we are at home with them we are ‘strategising’ for work or cuddling our laptops while the children are usually glued to trash coming through what we call ‘technological advancement
Television and internet provide a wide range of corruptive filth that is available to the rich and poor alike. A friend of mine recently told me she’d had a visitor in her home that had made fun of her for not having DSTV.
Great as this resource is to mature adults; its usefulness to a 10-year-old is questionable. Packaged deals are purchased according to adult choice but discretion is often unexercised when considering who the other viewers are likely to be. And what messages are our children getting from the broadcasts? They are being brainwashed into thinking the world of celebrity
, sex and American consumerism is a reality they want to emulate.
So can we blame the broadcaster for the messaging and the type of uncensored stuff they are putting on air? The question really is what we parents have done to go the extra mile in censoring what those little eyes see.
Ok, so we have to buy hi-tech so our kids keep up with the other kids and so we compensate for the times we spend away at work when we should have been parenting. Our children now have their own laptops with internet access. They browse and download 24/7 and we parents pay the bills but never monitor what’s coming through.
Then there is the music they listen to and easy, endlessly available pornography downloads. The list goes on, potential loss of innocence and corruption of virtue around every corner, on every screen. Where were you when it was happening?
For the sake of the children and for the sake of a morally sound future generation the answer is for parents to get out of the stupor and fight precepts that condone and perpetuate violence and sexism.
Even the words abstinence and virginity have fast become taboo in this era where sex has become a commercialised commodity and in the place of these ancient words we find the ‘condomise’ doctrine.
Can we not pause and pass down the principles which have preserved us and generations before us? This laissez fare approach to parenting is costly and we are losing many lives to the HIV and AIDS pandemic.
As the age of first sexual encounter continues to decrease, our children are placed at increased risk from an earlier age to the dreadful virus. And this situation is not restricted to schools.
As a parent I can put in the effort to censor what my kids see on TV and to lay down principles. We all need to spend more time helping our children find their moral compass.
Parents, if we are going to bring up a morally acceptable future generation, it’s our job to get out there and provide some ‘rehabilitation’ for our sexually curious (and increasingly active) children. No one is going to do it for us. Mercilene Machisa is the Gender Links Justice Programme Officer. This article is part of the GL series for the 16 Days of Activism.