What is self-harm or cutting and why should we know more about it?
Adolescence can be a challenging and overwhelming new chapter of your child's life. It may be a frustrating and emotional journey. Self-harm may be an option your child chooses to help them cope.
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In an ever-changing world where teenagers and young adolescents are increasingly confronted with new challenges, peer pressure, demanding relationships and the like, the growing phenomenon of self-harm as a means of regulating their emotions comes as no surprise.

Indeed, the prevalence of self-harm is increasingly common in teen populations, says Robert Whittaker, a clinical psychologist at the Akeso psychiatric clinic in Milnerton, Cape Town.

Statistical analysis of over 50 empirical studies reporting on the prevalence of Non-Suicidal Self-Injury (NSSI) in adolescents across the globe, show that 18% of these adolescents engage in NSSI, he points out.

A growing concern

According to the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG), non-suicidal self-injury is "more common than people realise. It is the only coping skill some people have when they feel emotionally overwhelmed. Frequently mistaken for a suicidal gesture or failed suicide attempt, it is not intended to kill; it keeps people alive in the face of intolerable mental pain or provides time out from stressful situations."

In the UK, The Huffington Post reported that the number of children being admitted to hospitals' emergency rooms and diagnosed with psychiatric disorders – and had also intentionally harmed themselves – has more than doubled between 2011 and 2015. They further quote published figures that show that self-harm among under-18s with mental health problems climbed from 1,098 in 2010/11 to 2,313 in 2014/15.

Emotion regulation

Whittaker explains: "When an adolescent engages in cutting, it is widely acknowledged that a large proportion of this act is for emotion regulation purposes. Cutting releases various endorphins into system which have a marked effect on the adolescent's emotional state, with many teens reporting that they feel calm and emotionally regulated during and immediately after cutting" (Linehan, 2015).

"Emotion regulation difficulties often stem from an environment which may feel unsafe, uncontaining and unpredictable. Adolescents with these issues often have not learnt to experience difficult emotions such as anger, fear, anxiety, sadness etc," he continues.

"When they are in situations which evoke these emotions, they can often react in destructive ways, for example breaking up friendships, being sexually inappropriate, using substances and cutting themselves and so on. Therefore, cutting is only one (common) option that the teen uses to feel better. It is important to note that they are doing their best with the resources at their disposal and their brain make-up to cope (Linehan, 2015).

"It must be stressed that although NSSI's are associated with a greater risk of suicidal self-harm, their function is not one of suicide which involves intent and a direct attempt to take one's own life, for example by hanging or shooting oneself or overdosing on medication/drugs," Whittaker stresses.

According to SADAG there are many factors that could cause someone to self-injure as a way of coping with the pain they feel on the inside.

"Most people who self-mutilate have difficulty expressing their feelings verbally and may have a dislike for themselves and their bodies. Some people self-mutilate because of low self-esteem, difficulties with relationships and lack of communication skills coupled with mental health issues that may be related to depression and/or anxiety and stress. It is important to understand that whatever the reason is that you self-mutilate, there are other more positive ways to deal with the way you feel inside" (Linehan, 2015).

Over time self-harm may even intensify from mild to severe, says Whittaker.

"If the adolescent's ability to tolerate emotional stress is very poor and does not improve, he/she may need to cut increasingly to achieve a relatively acceptable sense of regulation over time (Aguirre & Galen, 2013).

Hiding self-harm

"Adolescents mostly hide evidence of their self-harm," says Whittaker.

"They will often choose areas which can be more easily hidden, for example the inner arm and the inner thigh. The urge to feel better and more regulated often outweighs the damage that they do to their bodies. They often feel shame and guilt for their behaviour, but lack the skills to regulate their emotions in a healthier manner.

"Having said this, an increasing number of teenagers are not ashamed of their scars and wear them openly," he adds.

"This may in part be due to how cutting has become increasingly fashionable in popular media and is no longer seen to be as unacceptable. Although it is sometimes a learnt behaviour, the primary aspect of self-harm is as a form of emotion regulation (Linehan, 2015).

Tell-tale signs of self-mutilation

According to Whittaker, there are a number of signs that would indicate that a teenager/young adolescent harms him/herself.

Their emotional state could also be an indicator. Look for the following, according to Aguirre & Galen:

  • Intense interpersonal relationships,
  • Loss of friendships,
  • Fluctuating mood,
  • Low mood,
  • Intense and inappropriate anger
  • Markedly low self-esteem.

"It is important that teens who self-harm are not shamed," he cautions.

"This only makes them more anxious and lowers their mood which will inevitably make them want to cut more or use another methods to emotionally regulate."

According to SADAG young people who self-injure do not need responses like stereotyping, condemnation, judgemental attitudes, assumptions about what their behaviour means, threatening or issuing ultimatums.

Instead they need care, concern, compassion, support, understanding, time, space, good listening, assistance to find alternative coping skills, and a gentle encouragement to recognise and put into words their emotions.

Can cutting be treated?

One of the main treatment techniques used at the Akeso psychiatric clinic group is Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT).

"It was the brainchild of American psychologist Marsha Linehan who set out to create an approach which targeted emotion regulation and interpersonal deficits in people with borderline personality disorder (BPD). Cutting is a common aspect of BPD but not everybody who cuts, has the disorder. DBT is a successful method to treat emotion regulation difficulties which are at the root of self-harming behaviour," explains Whittaker.

"The good news is that teenagers/young adolescents can, and do, recover if they can learn ways to deal with their emotions constructively," he concludes.

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