"I'll pay you to marry my lesbian daughter"
Father offers bounty of more than HK$500 million to find husband for gay daughter.
Every so often something so bizarre occurs in the world that it truly defies belief. We’ve sent a couple of guys to the moon, we’ve managed to contain the HIV virus (somewhat)… as a species we’ve achieved some pretty damned amazing things. Then something like this happens and it makes you wonder, just how evolved are we really? How smart are we collectively, because as we all know, you’re only as strong as your weakest link. This doofus, who happens to be a billionaire, has gone public with an offer so insulting to women, the gay community, and the world at large that it truly defies belief.
What gives it a sad twist is that the daughter in question actually saw her father as the kind of dad we’d all like to be, having said this of him in 2007: “My father took a hands-off approach in parenting,” she told HK Magazine. “I see him as a friend more than a father. My parents never pressure me with high expectations.”
This guy represents, supposedly what is regarded to as the top of the food chain, being a billionaire and everything. If this isn’t definitive proof that having money doesn’t buy you common sense then I don’t know what is. On another level, this is tantamount to a kind of invitation for corrective “marriage”, along the same lines that those Neanderthals among us who still believe that all a lesbian needs is a good shag to “come right.”
If there is one thing that our kids teach us it is unconditional love. They accept us with all our foibles, their love is untainted by how we look, what we do, how much we earn, where we live, what we wear, who we choose to love, our sexual orientation etc. Kids love without preconceptions… until we begin to tell them what’s right and what’s wrong. That’s usually where we begin to mould the rockets scientists who end up like this woman’s dad.
Unconditional love is probably the hardest thing to achieve in any one lifetime, which is why it is best taught to us by pure and innocent kids. Clearly this mature and seemingly well-adjusted woman had an impression of her father which could not have been more off the mark had he decided to announce to the world that he was in fact gay and she was adopted.
Be alert and aware of the lessons your kids are teaching you, and don’t try to force them into images of what you consider to be perfection or right. Being a billionaire, running a multi-million dollar, multi-national business might be considered the ultimate measure of success in the corporate world, but the most important job you’ll ever have, is that of being a parent who can successfully nurture and support your children to take on the world with confidence. In this regard Mr Chao, you have failed miserably.
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