'Mom, Dad – I'm pregnant!'
Your daughter is pregnant, what now?
No parent expects to hear the words “Mom, Dad, I’m pregnant” come out of their daughter’s mouth. But if it does, you as the parent need to know what the options are and where do you go to from here.
According to StatsOnline there were reportedly 66 000 teenage girls in 2002 who gave pregnancy as a reason for them not attending school. This number rises and falls from year to year but one thing remains the same – the implications are enormous! What are the options?
No, it won’t be easy having a little one in the house again and yes, they’re expensive but yes, it will be worth it. There are obviously factors to take into consideration when deciding on whether or not your daughter keeps her baby. Such as, will your daughter be going back to school? If so, who will be taking care of the baby?
This needs to be discussed with a counselor who can assist and advise you in what would be the best route to take when it comes to adoption. Adoptions can be closed, or open – which means there can be contact with the child’s adoptive parents.
Adoption can also be done by the grandparents of the baby. If your daughter will be going back to school or has decided that she can't take care of the baby, or she is just simply too young – the grandparents can then become 'Mom and Dad'.
Abortion is an option for accidental pregnancies. There are many abortion clinics who offer counseling before and after the actual abortion has taken place. Abortion is legal in South Africa up until the 12th week of pregnancy.
Besides all of these areas that need to be considered, there also has to be a concern for the now teenage mother. For instance, is the mother healthy? Was the pregnancy a result of rape or consensual sex?
It can help to discuss your options and emotions with an outside counselor who can be neutral and help your daughter decide what would be best.
You can contact any of the following numbers in order to get hold of counselors.The Parent Centre
: 021 762 0116AIDS helpline
: 0800 012 322Crisis Line:
011 614 3149Princess Alice Adoption Home:
011 646 5641 / 486 1137AIDS helpline:
0800 012 322Family Life Centre:
011 788-4784/5Focus on the Family:
031 716 3300AIDS helpline:
0800 012 322Grace Help Centre:
014 574 3476AIDS helpline:
0800 012 322
If your area is not listed, contact any of the numbers above and they should be able to assist you in finding a care centre in your area.How did you deal with your teenage daughter’s pregnancy?