The scary truth about those first days with a newborn
Having a new baby isn't always as fun as you're led to believe.
The first month of my son’s life is a bit of a blur. But there are some things I do remember. Now I’m not saying this is the same for everyone but for me it was one of the most difficult times of my life. Becoming a parent is not for the faint hearted.

Post c-section it was very hard to get out of the mindset of being a patient. Because everyone from my mother to my husband treated me like one. It was hard to adjust to this new role of motherhood that had been thrust upon me and I was completely overwhelmed by this little person.

I thought that no one else could take care of him but me. I found it hard to even leave him with his father while I had a quick pee break without rushing back to take him back. He slept in our bed and on me, I couldn’t even stand him to be in his crib which was right up next to my side of the bed. I was scared he would suffocate himself (thanks SIDS scaremongers!)

We were struggling with breastfeeding. Flat nipples and a bad latch meant bleeding and nipple shields. I wanted to give up so badly. There were so many times I wanted to send my husband out to get formula because I just couldn’t but I have the support of a great husband and eventually we got it right.

I spent all day, every day in bed with him to the point that there was an imprint of my body on my side of the bed. It was not pretty, you guys.
But then one day (and through the haze of my tiredness I don’t remember when exactly) he smiled. And then it got better. He became more animated and responsive and I started falling in love with my son. He was no longer just someone who drank, slept and pooped all day. He was learning more and more every day and so was I. I learnt to not jump at every sound he made and that his father could be a comfort to him too. So much so that it made sense for us that he’d be a stay-at-home dad for a while.

So to all new moms who are finding it hard, it gets better. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and the rewards are amazing.

How did you cope with the first month as a brand new mom?

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