Seeing Mommy's body
Do your kids see you naked? Sam Wilson’s do.
(Shawn Benjamin)
I was in the shower this morning when my youngest, 9-year-old Benj, banged open the bathroom door and sauntered over to the loo.

“Um, excuse me,” I said, mid-lather. “You could at least knock. I’m naked in here, you know. That means that I’m entitled to a little privacy.”

Benj looked me over with a hint of amusement and a background tinkling melody.

“But Mom,” he said, with a little smile. “I am one of only two people who have seen both the inside and the outside of you! My body was actually inside your body. You made my body. That makes our bodies, like, one body. Surely you don’t want privacy from me?”

And off he went, leaving me to ponder this while my conditioner did its thing.

It’s a good point, but clearly not a sustainable one. Sure... 9-year-old Benj feels this way, but I am prepared to bet the en-suite on the fact that he won’t feel that way by 16.

Obviously, children and privacy decisions vary from family to family, and embarrassment threshold to embarrassment threshold. Most of the time, I am totally fine with the sons getting a quick gander of me in my altogether while changing or getting out of the bath, but I’ve never felt comfortable wearing only the Emperor’s while we watch TV or cook, for example.

I’m also the only woman in the house and I don’t want to let the sons loose into the world of dating without any sense of what’s happening under the hood, as it were.

Although even that needs to be contextualised. I asked my older son, 11-year-old Joe.

“Do you mind that you sometimes see me naked?”

“Not at all,” he responded. “In fact... can I tell you a secret?”

My heart dropped.

“I also saw Luke’s mommy naked once when I slept over. I couldn’t sleep so I woke her up and her nightie was on the floor and she had to put it on before she could get me some milk.”

{Oh, thank you God.}

“She was kinda smaller than you all round though. Especially on her tummy and her...”

{Okay, no need to take the piss now, God.}

“Yep, well both men and women come in all shapes and sizes,” I said brightly, stuffing my rising angst behind a big mental door labelled My Own Shit.

In a nutshell? I’ve decided to just go with it for the moment, and take my lead from the sons. And, of course, other lovely Parent24ers. What are your thoughts on nudity in the family? Weird? Necessary?

Add your thoughts in the comment box below.

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