How can a stepmom and mom coexist peacefully?
Registered counsellor Heidi Van Der Merwe of JDM Pssych answers. 


  • Don't try to replace the relationship, rather build a new relationship with the child, based on new experiences. 
  • Treat the biological mother with respect, especially in front of the children, and urge the father to do the same. 
  • Be courteous and don't use the children as pawns if a disagreement arises between the parents. 


  • Accept the stepmom in a complementary role, not as a person replacing you. 
  • Treat the stepmom with respect, as the children will most likely do what you do. 
  • Try to set personal issues aside, don't argue in front of the children.                          

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