I’M OVER MY MARRIAGE
Question
I’ve been married for four years and we still don't have a baby. My wife and I have been to various doctors but she still can't become pregnant.
If there’s an argument my wife tells me I’m useless. I’ve been called this so many times now I’ve lost count. I just keep quiet instead.
She also keeps checking my phone to see if I’m talking to any women, which I’m not, but I don’t know if I should continue in this marriage.
Answer
Name-calling can be hurtful and degrading. It seems your wife believes you’re the one who has a fertility problem. Has a doctor verified this?
If not then I suggest you visit a fertility clinic for proper investigations and recommendations. In the meantime why not talk to your wife about attending marriage counselling?
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HE’S A LIAR
Question
I’m 34 and I've been married for almost two years. I recently discovered my husband lied to me about the two children who are living with him – they’re not his biological children.
Even though we have two children together, he refuses to pay child support as I get a grant. I'm feeling emotionally and financially abused and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Answer
The first thing you need to do is find out why your husband decided to lie to you. It’s important to get to the bottom of this and that he now tells you the truth.
Nothing justifies him lying, but he might think he has a good reason for keeping secrets from you. Once you know all the facts you can then talk about the way forward for all the children and your marriage.