Stepmoms want to be loved. That's all.
Elana Afrika shares what she's learned from being a stepmom.

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Editor: Elana Afrika sent us her story about some of the revelations she has had as a stepmom, and we're sure you'll enjoy reading about her discoveries:

She writes:

I had a few of you asking how to deal with motherhood, especially when it’s brand new, or you have accepted the title “ stepmom”. I’m pregnant with my first baby.  She is perfect.  And I have been a stepmom for 2 and a half years now. I learned from one of my kids, that “stepmom” is not a bad word. The other thing I know is that, if you have married a man with kids, you have probably found true love, which I am totally happy about- otherwise why would you be with him- AND you have also accepted the hardest, and most rewarding task ever.  You are a stepmom.  So am I… and a whole bunch of other women around the world.

But how could he love YOU, and his kids all at once? What about the discipline?

Even if you were their real mommy, you and your husband may compromise (or even differ) on how to discipline them. I don’t discipline. I lay rules down for my home/space, and my husband implements them with his kids.  It works. Because we are a team.

And about the love? You see, love is not like a pizza pie that, if you had to share it and there is not enough left, you would starve to death.

Love is like... umm… a swimming pool. It’s big enough that, if you get pushed in, you also get wet.  Even though it’s sometimes harder than other relationships, he could never love anybody more, or even less. There is enough love for everyone. So speak and do things out of love. That’s who you really are.

I hope that helps. Yes? Now live the positive side of being “stepmom”. My little boy and girl love me. And they are excited about their “ almost-here” sister… After all, its so much cooler having 3 kids, with the body of only having one.

(wink). He he.




You can read more about Elana's journey on her website: Chocolateface

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