Sharing a bed with my son
Getting him into his own room hasn’t been easy, and the ghost behind the door didn’t help.
This is one decision I am living to regret but at the time I had valid reasons for choosing to share a bed with my son.

When he was young he shared a bed with me. It was only natural that he did that and am sure the family elders would have frowned upon me had I decided otherwise. The idea of him in a cot at that stage was not entertained.

I was a first time mother and the idea of my baby next to me sounded good, I wanted to bond with him. Him sharing a bed with me was also convenient as I did not have to leave my bed when breastfeeding him at night.

This was a big bonus as I struggled with the sleep patterns after he was born. Waking up at night just didn’t work for me. I prolonged his exit from my bed because at the time I would come home late at night due to work demands and that was the best I could do.

It made me feel better that I was spending ‘time’ with him if I came home, even if he was already asleep. I wanted some form of contact – and for him to feel that I was around. He would sometimes put his arm around me and you can imagine the warm feeling.

As he grew older it became a bit difficult for Sammy to leave my bed. He was so used to sharing that having him sleep in his own bed resulted in teary sessions at times.

Time for a big bed

I had to come up with plans trying to persuade him to move out, like keeping the light on up until he fell asleep. I think I might have left it a little too late and it was not an easy task at all.

He also had his fair share of drama – the ghost behind the door – the snake under the bed – of course I had to look for these and ‘chase’ them away before he could sleep. After all these mini-stunts he managed to sleep in his own bed and it was going well, so I thought.

But disruptions came when my helper left and he is now scared to sleep on his own in his room. He is back in my bed and I have allowed him. I hope I will not go through the exercise of having to convince him to go back to his room all over again.

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