Growing up at 24
No matter how old you are, while you're still living under your mum's roof, you are a child.
My mum is a strict woman who wants the best for her children. Problem is, she doesn't realise that what she wants and expects is not what I need or want.

She is stuck in her ways and stubborn and that would be the mild way to describe her.

Back to my story. So I have decided to leave the nest, unmarried and not interested in the commitment ceremony anytime soon. This is torture for a Muslim mother and I feel terrible but liberated at the same time.

I know you're reading this and thinking 24?! Yes, I am a late bloomer.

So this choice has come from a number of places:
  • My life is my life and I wish to live it free of judgement
  • My views on religion have changed dramatically and I wish to explore that on my own
  • I want to make my own mistakes and learn from them by myself
  • I want my independence
My independence is really important to me right now. I want to make my mark on the world, without the help of my mum.

The scariest thing right now is that I love my family and I do not want to be cut off from them. The decisions I make will affect the relationship I have with my mother and we don't have the rosiest one to start off with.

Moving is scary
I am terrified and excited and totally ready for something new. My life is in a bit of a rut and a change of venue is what I feel I need. Dealing with the guilt is starting to get to me and I haven't even moved yet!

I think I'm a bit of a people pleaser. At the same time my happiness comes before outdated ways of living and beliefs.

Women can live on their own and this is my time to make an adult decision.

Any advice for this first time mover? What was your experience of finally leaving the nest?

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